I was in a 4 year relationship with my previous boyfriend, but the inevitable happened, we broke up. It hurts so much that my eyes were swollen for a week. It was just last April, then I have a new boyfriend in July. You may ask, why so fast? Did I not love my ex? Well, I loved him so much that I’m willing to give up everything for him, everything, including my family. Yes, I was that in love. Then, what happened? Why did I have a new boyfriend just months after we broke up? Have I already moved on? Yes, I have already moved on. Some say that it will take months, years even to move on. Not for me. So what did I do?
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First, after the break up, I consoled myself. I told myself that I deserve someone better, better than him. Than he didn’t deserve me. I did not think that we will get back together. NOPE. I stopped hoping that we will be together again. I did not let myself to linger on that thought. I believe that if I kept on thinking about him, I will not be able to move on. It will take me a long time to move on.
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Second, I stopped thinking about him. I stopped posting about him. I deleted his number, removed him from my friend list, everything that connected us, I removed all of that. There was no connection left.
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Third, I kept myself busy so that it prevented me from thinking about him. My friends, family, and workmates encouraged me to leave the house so that I will not be left alone and make “mukmok”.
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Fourth, I gave my love to someone else. When we broke up, I decide that I’m not ready to love again. Then someone came along, making me laugh and happy. He made me feel that someone care for me, that I’m still special. You can’t stop yourself from falling in love, right? That’s what happened, I just realized that I love him. I told myself that it’s not the right time because other people will think that I just broke up then I will have a new one agad. I actually told him that, he said that he’s willing to wait for me. Well, that made me fall in love even more. So, I decided not to worry to what other people may say, because I really love him and he also loves me. So, we became a couple exactly 3 months after the break up. My friends took it well, they were actually happy for me because I’m happy again. Loving someone else helped me moved on.
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Last, I moved on because I chose to move on. I chose to forget the love I had for him. I chose not to be afraid to be without him. I chose to live my life without him. It was my choice to move on.
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Maybe, those people who can’t move on really quick chose not to move on, but who am I to judge them? it’s their choice. and who are they to judge me? It’s my choice. It’s all about making you own choices.
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Moving on is a choice. Happiness is a choice. I chose to move on and be happy with my life. It’s all about making choices. It was my choice, now you have to make yours.
